TIPS

WHEN THINGS HEAT UP...

 

           Give yourself time. Take a breathis this the time or place to talk about troubling issues?

 

           Check your anger level. Am I too angry to have a productive conversation?
Is the other person too angry to talk?

 

           Clarify the real issue. Why am I upset? What do I need? What does the other person need?

 

           Listen. Often when you listen first, the other person will listen to you. Say back what you heard, giving the other person a chance to clarify.

 

           Say what you need (and explain how you feel) without blaming and judging the other person.